Bad managers don’t just exist in movies like “Horrible Bosses” and “Office Space.” Real life versions of these characters populate today’s workplaces, too.
Bad bosses contaminate the workplace. Some do so obliviously, while others smugly manipulate their employees, using them as instruments of their own success. Regardless of their methods, bad bosses cause irrevocable damage to their companies and employees by hindering performance and creating unnecessary stress.We ??know that an angry boss looks unprofessional.
The stress your boss causes is bad for your health. Multiple studies have found that working for a bad boss increases your chance of having a heart attack by as much as 50%.
Unfortunately, boss is still boss.
Creating a good relation with your boss is important. Your boss has the upper hand and can probably find a way to get you fired. Here are tips:
Acknowledge. Let your boss know that you know he or she is angry. Describe their body language to your boss, such as clenched fist or a red face. This should alert your boss that he or she is acting unprofessional.
Repeating Your Boss. Tell your boss what he or she told you, showing that you were listening. Reiterate the main concerns without repeating negative words that your boss used.
Don???t suffer in silence: ?????Let someone else in the organization know that you???re unhappy with how you???re being treated,??? ??suggests. ???Ask that the information be kept confidential, and don???t expect any action in the short term. But chances are good that you???re not the only one having problems with this person. If enough people complain, decision-makers may take notice.???
Apologize. If you did something wrong, own up to your mistakes and apologize. Even if you don???t see the mistake, apologize because it was clearly a mistake in your boss??? eyes. In the long run, it will slower your boss??? level of anger.
Asking.??Step up and ask your boss how you can make things better. If your boss responds by saying there is nothing you can do, suggest a couple of your own solutions to the problem. An angry boss usually can???t think of a good solution on the spot, so it is beneficial if you suggest some solutions of your own.
Work with your boss instead of against him or her. If you really want to improve your relationship with your boss, then you should work with your boss to improve the state of your company, instead of against your boss. Though it may feel good to make your boss look stupid at a meeting or to send a passive-aggressive email to your boss, in the long run, this won’t do any good for your relationship and it won’t make you feel any better. Furthermore, making your relationship with your boss even worse will make it harder to get your work done, and at the end of the day, nothing is more counterproductive than that.
Listening. Listening is hard, especially when your boss is yelling at you with the disapproving look. Most employees are tempted to retaliate and defend themselves, but a wiser choice would be to listen. Let your boss vent out some of that anger.
Set Boundaries Working with someone who seems to have no boundaries means that you have to go ahead and set them. ???One of the challenges of unlikable people is that they come with equally unlikable behavior???and it???s important to learn how to distance yourself from that behavior. As Robert Frost said, ???Good fences make good neighbors.??????
Keep the communication open Ask your manager if you could schedule some regular meetings with him or her so you can discuss your progress and the current state of performance. Having regular communications with your manager is beneficial regardless of performance, but especially when performance is a concern.
Be open if personal issues are impacting your jobIf the performance concerns are relatively recent and they’re due to some personal issues you’re dealing with, like a divorce, personal or family illness, or some other life-impacting event, consider sharing the highlights of this with your manager. You don’t need to go into a lot of detail, but life happens and many managers will give you some space and time to deal with your personal issues, understanding that your performance will return to normal once the issues are under control or have been dealt with.
Keep track of all of your conversations. Keeping track of all of your conversations, whether it’s through emails or memos, will help you be on top of your situation with your boss. Doing so will be helpful for two reasons. First, having a record or everything your boss said will help you in the event that your boss gives you confusing instructions or claims he or she didn’t say something that he or she really said; you can use the written communication as evidence. Second, having a record of everything your boss says to you can be helpful if your relationship is so problematic that you want to discuss the situation with a supervisor; in that case, you’ll have written proof that something is off
Understand that you cannot change your boss. If your boss is characteristically difficult to handle, not just for you but for others, then the likelihood of him changing is minimal. If this is the case, use the opportunity to simply make him aware of your issues. At least he cannot say that he was never informed of your concerns. Though you can???t change your boss or his personality, hopefully talking to your boss will send him on the path to improvement. Furthermore, you can work on improving your relationship without changing your boss.
Most bad bosses are not bad people; they???re good people with certain weaknesses.
Remain professional when confronting your boss, even if you feel your blood boiling. Maintain a calm demeanor and be prepared to listen to any gripes or lectures that he or she may want to share with you. Don???t use vulgar language or personal attacks, and don???t be lewd or say anything you would say if you were fighting with a close friend. Remember that you have a professional relationship with this person, not a personal relationship. Even if your boss starts being unprofessional, don???t use that as an excuse to follow suit.
Do not go over your boss???s head if you can avoid it. Not only will this cause hostility between you and your boss, but your boss???s boss may refer you back to your boss, which may result in an even more unperceptive situation. You should go over your boss???s head if you feel like you have tried everything with your boss but nothing has worked. Additionally, you can go over your boss???s head if you feel that your boss is being sexually inappropriate, discriminating against you based on your age, gender, race, or another external factor, and that further action needs to be taken outside of your boss???s power.
In case you are unable to handle Your Manager::
See if you can be transferred within your company. One option that isn???t as extreme as leaving your company but which can make you a lot happier at your workplace is to see if you can be transferred to a different department, or even transferred to a different boss. If you???re truly having trouble with your boss and your supervisors or other people at the company completely understand where you???re coming from, then they may be willing to accommodate your needs. If you make it pretty clear that you won???t be able to stay on if you???re stuck with your current boss, in spite of how much you like the company, then they may be able to find an arrangement that makes you happy.
Decide whether it???s worth it to leave your workplace. Unfortunately, when it comes to today???s job market, good jobs can be few and far between, depending on the industry you???re working in. Before you decide to go on the job market again or to leave your current company, you should ask yourself if it???s really worth it for you to make this change. If your job is causing you mental and physical pain and you really feel like you can???t be there another day and keep your sanity, then it may really be time to leave. However, if you???re just mildly annoyed or frustrated, you may want to hold off, or you may want to explore your options before you resign.
Do your research carefully before you take another job offer. Though you may be bursting at the seams to leave your current work situation, you have to diligently do your research before you take a new offer. If you???re too desperate to leave, you may jump at the chance to work at a new company, even if it ends up not being a good fit. You could end up at a company with a boss who is even more difficult (though this may be hard to imagine now), and will only make your own working life even worse. It???s important to take the time and to make sure that you???re leaving a hostile environment for a comfortable one before you make the transition.
Play for Time or Move On If you are unable to change your relationship with your boss by taking the steps described, and if there isn???t potential for group action, then your options become more limited.In these situations, most employees simply go through the motions at work and minimize contact with the boss. There is always the possibility, or hope, that he or she will move on. But remember that in playing for time, you also need to set a time limit, so that hanging in doesn???t become a way of life. If it does, you will feel disengaged, disenchanted, and even embittered. And that may spill over to other realms, contributing to depression and a range of additional psychosomatic reactions.
The better solution is to look for another job while you???re still employed, exiting on your own terms. Beef up your resume, contact headhunters, line up references, and start interviewing. Having a bad boss isn???t your fault, but staying with one is.
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